1. ashMaisv.exe isnt running
  2. what do i set the poplisten items to?
  3. which account are you referring to? in thunderbird its set as i mentioned above unless you meant somewhere else
also when i try to send with these settings it asks for my password for the smtp server which i dont have.. and then refuses to send anything (for my uni account which can now receive atleast)

It should work with an arbitrary password, the authentication serves the only purpose - to send the server address from a mail program to avast (in the username field)

i tried it with an arbitrary p/w and the same thing still happens